Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Anonymous said: Hiii so I was wondering what swimsuit do you wear when going for a swim? I'm a girl too and I have hairy stomach and arms I don't know what swimsuit I should wear when in public pool / beach? :)

Hello! I received an ask about that a while ago: http://hairytummy.tumblr.com/post/74135986887/im-hairy-all-over-the-place-stomach-back-chest

Since then, I bought a bikini and went to the beach with it! I was jealous of all the girls with bikinis so I didn’t feel like wearing the one piece. I shaved everything (arms, legs, back, belly, chest) and it was pretty complicated. Well it was complicated for the back mostly, next time I think I will use a hair removal cream. I was a bit scared I missed spots (I’m pretty sure I did lol) but people at the beach were all busy tanning and having fun with their friends to care about me I think.

Just go with what you feel most comfortable! Choose a swimsuit you like and you’ll be really cute with it c: have fun swimming!

Monday, July 14, 2014

galialayexperience:

EXPERIENCE: DATING: Find someone who, despite your downfalls, loves you. Find someone who isn’t “turned off” because you happen to not be conventionally ‘beautiful’.

As you can see by the images above, I have a couple physical downfalls that I find make me unappealing and a turn off to people.

  • I’m certainly overweight, albeit not obese (I’ve actually lost a lot of weight this last year). I am not fit, trim, or skinny.
  • I have a physical condition known as hirsutism caused by my ovaries (I have PCOS) and grow male-pattern hair all over my body, predominately on my face but also my chest, arms, tummy, and back. Shaving is a chore. My body hair also grows in very coarse and prickly. I don’t have soft leg hair like most women when makes sleeping with my girlfriend uncomfortable for her when I don’t shave.
  • On my chest are lots of pockmark scars (not pictured, the lighting didn’t help show them well) from acne when I was a teen.

These are merely what I see as my physical defects. I of course have mental ones too but I can’t take pictures of those and I don’t want to bore you with a list of that. We’ll focus on my physical aspects since they bring down my self-esteem the most and are thus most relevant to what I titled this blog entry.

I don’t have high self-esteem because of how I see myself given the list above. I feel unattractive a lot of the time. Bottom-left photo is what I looked like when my girlfriend and I began dating. I really felt unattractive then. I have no clue why she asked me to be with her back then. Bottom-right is what I look like now, 1.5 years after we began dating and I began medicinal treatment for PCOS (and did something about my bush-man eyebrows…)

I’m glad to have found my girlfriend though because she doesn’t see my drawbacks as unappealing. When I feel fat or ugly (and voice it) she’ll always tell me I’m beautiful. She constantly tells me I’m sexy. When I voice how I hate my facial hair or mention I forgot to shave and feel gross for it she turns me to her and explains she doesn’t care. She doesn’t care that I have a few physical differences that aren’t “conventionally pretty”. She loves me for who I am more than what I look like.

This is important when dating someone. This is important when loving someone. She picks me up and loves me when I’m down. And in turn, I love her. I find her beautiful despite what she says are her drawbacks. We pick each other up without beating ourselves (or others) down. Find that someone and you’ll be happy in your relationship.

Sunday, July 13, 2014

galialayexperience:

EXPERIENCE: Facial waxing

Today I decided to get a facial wax for my hirsutism instead of the usual shaving. Shaving usually causes the hair to grow back the next day and is very annoying… Waxing should keep the hair at bay for a while right? We’ll see.

So I booked an appointment at the European Wax Center in the same shopping center I work in. They use imported hard wax from Europe so there’s no cloth or paper strips. Just wax on, wax off.

First I had to avoid shaving my face for a few days. That was embarrassing enough. Thankfully I didn’t have work (although the circumstances of that are not as appreciated…) so I didn’t have to go anywhere, and my girlfriend doesn’t make a deal about me having hair on my face. She did seem drawnback to actually see so much of it since usually I shave and she only sees a bit of stubble now and then. But when I told her not to look at it and came off embarrassed and ashamed she was quick to reassure me she didn’t care about it.

Of course when I came in to the center there was a really cute girl at the desk with short hair that made her even cuter, and I look awful with a chinful of freaking hair… It may not be as bad as I make it sound, but when society tells women all the time that we shouldn’t have hair on our faces and suddenly you’ve got 5 o’clock shadow stubble like dark hairs growing thickly under your chin you feel like it’s as obvious as a sign.

The waxer (what are they called?? wax artist? waxtician?) had me lay down on the table and started applying the hot purple-black wax to my upper lip. The heat was a touch uncomfortable but bearable. While I was pondering that last sentence on the table she ripped it off. OWOWOWOWWWWW.

To make note I’ve only ever had my eyebrows waxed once before. That’s the only experience I have with waxing. To suddenly have this coarse hair ripped from the supple skin of my upper lip was painful to say the least.

After that the chin. That hurt worse. I had tears running down my cheeks as I lay there trying not to yell out every time she tore another run of wax from my chin.

Finally she was done and applied the “soothing” oil. 26$ and 15 minutes after I came in I was done. It wasn’t until I got to my car and looked in the mirror that I saw the blood spots from the hair being ripped out and the patches of hair that were still present under my chin. There were a few stray hairs here and there the wax hadn’t gotten and that was ok, sure. But this was a full patch that should have been taken care of with the rest, like she had simply forgotten to finish the job… So I had to try and pluck most of what was left and just shave the rest :(

I was supposed to get a bikini line waxing too but she told me the hair wasn’t long enough. That’s ok. The moment I took my underwear off and laid on the table I was so uncomfortable… I think I’ll be ok with shaving that…

Quite frankly I don’t think it was a good experience because of the missed patch of hair. Unprofessional really.

Saturday, July 12, 2014
miatheartist:

Always remember that I’m always going to be part girl and part werewolf. Don’t be scared of me.

miatheartist:

Always remember that I’m always going to be part girl and part werewolf. Don’t be scared of me.

Friday, July 11, 2014

studies-in-ontology:

Body hair on women is no different from the body hair on men

Why is this so difficult to understand

No matter your gender identity or sexuality you’re a fucking idiot if you think women are obligated to shave 

And if you’re a man fucking covered in hair and think it’s gross for women to not shave…you’re a moron and shouldn’t be allowed the privilege of touching a woman’s body

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Remember

femmadilemma:

There are people getting rich on our hatred of our bodies

Wednesday, July 9, 2014

sweatpantsandsportsbras:

IF YOUR BOYFRIEND MAKES JOKES ABOUT YOUR BODY, WEIGHT, EATING DISORDER, RECOVERY, ETC, MAKE A JOKE ABOUT HOW HE’S SINGLE AND THEN WALK OUT THE DOOR BECAUSE THAT IS SOME FUCKEN BULLSHIT AND YOU ARE A BAD BITCH WHO DESERVES BETTER OK OK

Tuesday, July 8, 2014
Women who are fat are said to have ‘let themselves go.’ The very phrase connotes a loosening of restraints. Women in our society are bound. In generations past, the constriction was accomplished by corsets and girdles…. Women today are bound by fears, by oppression, and by stereotypes that depict large women as ungainly, unfeminine, and unworthy of appreciation…. Above all, women must control themselves, must be careful, for to relax might lead to the worst possible consequence: being fat.

“Letting Ourselves Go: Making Room for the Fat Body in Feminist Scholarship,” by Cecilia Hartley  (via albinwonderland)

Feel like this can also apply to body hair!

(via hirsuteandcute)

(Source: loniemc)

Monday, July 7, 2014
bbqurll:

Your ‘flaws’ are completely normal.

bbqurll:

Your ‘flaws’ are completely normal.

Sunday, July 6, 2014

Anonymous said: Hi there, I really love this blog and appreciate that it's even here. Just knowing there are others out there with similar issues is sooo comforting. I have never been in a romantic relationship before and I think that one may start up? Idk, but I keep pushing him away because of thinking how he'd react to seeing my body hair. Should I tell him before he sees or let him just kind of find out? Haha sorry if this is a weird question. Thanks -Amanda

hirsuteandcute:

Thank you! Oh don’t worry, it’s probably not as big of a deal to him as you’re worried it is and it would be a shame to push someone away that you’re interested in just because of it. If this guy is worth your time he really won’t care. Whether you choose to tell him or let him find out is up to you, personally I don’t tell the people I date and let them find out because I don’t think it’s a big deal that requires some kind of disclaimer or announcement. Should they ask about it (which I have to point out almost never happens unless I bring it up first) I just tell them about it. It’s really up to you but it’s shouldn’t matter and it most certainly shouldn’t be a ‘dealbreaker’ or anything. Good luck <3

Saturday, July 5, 2014

moist-teabag:

me cosplaying as a hairy disney princess that doesn’t exist yet boo hoo

(Source: angelinajolieakamom)

This is a current list of tags 4chan is targeting.

Feminism
Feminist
Patriarchy
Fat Acceptance
Womyn
Womyn of color
Misogyny
Rape culture
Ableism
Unleash the dragon
Need feminism
Shut down 4chan
Feminism
dw
katawa shoujo
feminist
sjw
attack on titan
snk
free!
supernatural
doctor who
avengers
marvel
lesbian
gay
lbgt
asexual
pansexual
polysexual
otherkin
trannsexual
tumblr
The tags
mysoginy
equality
veganism
animals
health
dogs
cats
puppies
coping
feel good
recovery
ptsd
depression
flowers
happy
lol
art
vintage
diy
pink
pastel
goth
anyme
cute
selfie
me
self
activism
social justice
femme
racism
white supremacy
privilege

4chan is targeting tags and posting incredibly violent and triggering material within them. DO NOT ACCESS THE ABOVE TAGS.

I noticed that a lot of the PSA’s were images without transcripts, and there are several posts with different tags to look out for.

This is a compilation of those tags, in a text format for anyone who has issues with reading images.

Please spread around in the interests of accessibility, especially since the ableism tags are being targeted as well.

Thank you, and stay safe.

(via hollowedskin)

I’m going to assume that this is part of the 4Chan targeting as well: This evening I received a lot of unspeakable messages and submissions. They were all rape, gore, and violence, related. They literally made me throw-up, so I’m probably going to either avoid tumblr for a day or so until this hopefully cools down, or at least not be so quick to go to my ask box.

Stay safe, everyone.

(via feminishblog)