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there is nothing inherently liberating in covering up
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Anonymous asked: Hi :) I'm a very hairy girl, and I may have PCOS, because I have slight acne and hair in places most girls don't. I'm scared of not being fertile because my biggest dream is to be a mother. Also I don´t know how to tell my mum that I want to go to the doctor to see if I have any hormonal problem. What should I do?
Hello! I live in Canada, so it may be different where you live, but after 14 years old you can go see a doctor alone and your parents don’t need to know. But I guess it could be difficult if you live in USA and need an insurance to cover the costs. Anyway, it seems like you want to tell your mom and that’s cool too.
I would tell her how you feel about the hair and tell her that you’re scared it’s PCOS. Mostly like you did with me, but with more details. If your periods are irregular, it would be another symptom to tell her about.
When I told my mom, she didn’t take me seriously. As when she was young no one shaved much and still now she doesn’t shave her legs when she wear shorts and dresses. So she just answered something like everyone has hair, why do you worry about that? She was in denial that I had more hair than average. So, if something like this happens to you, you have to insist more, maybe not the same day, but if you keep taking about it and you precise how bad it makes you feel, she’ll realize it’s important for you. But maybe she will respond positively right away and you won’t have to insist. Like when I told my dad, he didn’t really see a problem but as he saw it bothered me he propose to pay for a private doctor right away.
I hope this helps, good luck! c:
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Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm a Spanish girl, I just turned 17 and I've had hair problems for a while now. When I was around 11 I started waxing my arms because they were -and still are- pretty hairy. But I think it's since I was around 14 when everything else appeared. I don't know if it has been there before or I just realised then. From my nape to my ankles. Everywhere. If it was kind of blonde I wouldn't really care, but it's pretty dark and pretty visible. Do you think it may be an hormonal problem? I'm ashamed.
Hello! It’s common to grow more hair during the teen years as there’s a lot of hormonal changes related to puberty. Even if 14 years old may seem a bit old (maybe you got your period years before), it’s still normal to grow more hair, there’s still puberty changes until then and even after for some (for boys it goes until older, as their puberty starts later than girls). During teen years there’s more androgens (an hormone both girls and boys have) that stimulates hair growth, it can also make existing hair thicker and darker. Also, latino people often have more hair than white people. There’s always a possibility that it’s an hormonal disorder, but only tests and a doctor can tell you.
It’s not something to be ashamed of, even if society tells us otherwise, a lot of girls have a lot of hair but they hide it. In the end, the important thing is to do what makes you feel more comfortable. You may try to stop getting rid of it (or part of it) and see how it makes you feel. You may realize people don’t notice and its less of a big deal than you thought.
You should check the faq tag and the ask archive too, there’s more info.
I wish you the best