Friday, April 18, 2014
Thursday, April 17, 2014
destroy this “more than friends” bullshit
destroy this disgusting fucking idea that being in a romantic relationship is more important/closer than being in a platonic relationship
destroy the idea that friendships are less than romances
destroy the idea that you need to be romantically involved with someone if you want to be really close to them
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Me n my hairy legs.
Never doing homework anymore.
Its been almost a year since I last shaved my legs. Last summer I spent a month in the Alaskan back country with very little access to water. Bathing was not an option. My leg hair was already pretty long at this point and the added month just added confidence. Come August, my mother tried to bribe me with $50 to shave for a wedding. I did not concede. This has been the longest my leg hair has been since I started shaving in the FOURTH GRADE. I am hairy. I was bullied. It gave me character and somehow confidence. I was already weird. What do you say we drive it home (I guess I said to myself?)?
Questions/comments I usually get:
What do boys think?: Well I don’t think its healthy to alter my body in order to attract the opposite sex, assuming that is what I’m into. The type of people I am trying to attract are those that don’t give a shit and accept me for who I am. If people are grossed out by me, that’s chill, I will not be seeking their intimacy.
You’re never going to get a boyfriend: Once again, you are assuming I WANT ONE! But I do have one and have had them in the past. They do not mind. I have have no interest in dating close-minded people or people that want to control my outer appearance.
But it’s not hygenic or clean: I still shower.
But Marni, Its just not feminine: Femininity is a social construct. I feel very feminine in my own way by celebrating the natural state of my body hair. I wear bows, lipstick, dresses, skirts, cute socks, and do a bunch of other “feminine” things because I enjoy them. But burping, fart jokes, and giggling about poop are also 100% on my radar.
I’m gong to think of more silly questions and comments and write at a later date.
Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm a Spanish girl, I just turned 17 and I've had hair problems for a while now. When I was around 11 I started waxing my arms because they were -and still are- pretty hairy. But I think it's since I was around 14 when everything else appeared. I don't know if it has been there before or I just realised then. From my nape to my ankles. Everywhere. If it was kind of blonde I wouldn't really care, but it's pretty dark and pretty visible. Do you think it may be an hormonal problem? I'm ashamed.
Hello! It’s common to grow more hair during the teen years as there’s a lot of hormonal changes related to puberty. Even if 14 years old may seem a bit old (maybe you got your period years before), it’s still normal to grow more hair, there’s still puberty changes until then and even after for some (for boys it goes until older, as their puberty starts later than girls). During teen years there’s more androgens (an hormone both girls and boys have) that stimulates hair growth, it can also make existing hair thicker and darker. Also, latino people often have more hair than white people. There’s always a possibility that it’s an hormonal disorder, but only tests and a doctor can tell you.
It’s not something to be ashamed of, even if society tells us otherwise, a lot of girls have a lot of hair but they hide it. In the end, the important thing is to do what makes you feel more comfortable. You may try to stop getting rid of it (or part of it) and see how it makes you feel. You may realize people don’t notice and its less of a big deal than you thought.
You should check the faq tag and the ask archive too, there’s more info.
I wish you the best
Monday, April 14, 2014
Me and my hairy legs are so happy with my new skirt! YAY!
Sunday, April 13, 2014
Never ignore the irony of fashion & cosmetics companies trying to sell you “natural” beauty.
If they actually wanted you to be natural, you wouldn’t need them and they’d be out of business. All they want to do is sell you the fantasy: That way, your “natural” beauty becomes dependent on their products.
Saturday, April 12, 2014
So it’s my arms again after about a month or two for anon. I realized I didn’t explain in my last picture but I was talking to an anon about arm hair since she was really unhappy about hers and asked me if it was a problem for me etc and I said I’ve been tryna find more confidence in growing out my arm hair and this way the progress I’d made. Like I don’t think arm hair is really a big deal at all especally on others but I still feel kind of embarrassed about not waxing mine. I’ve waxed it for such a long time and was also teased really badly about it especially by boys. Also since arms are like always on show I feel like it’s really obvious, particularly since a lot of my friends arm hair is finer than mine so I feel like it really stands out. If my arm hair stayed the way it was in the first picture when it had just started growing back in I wouldn’t mind as much but this picture is much more true to life, once it’s grown back in properly it’s pretty thick and dark. I’m really fighting with myself not to wax it particularly since I’ve been having a difficult time with confidence recently but I figured if I posted about it on here it would help me confront it since I’m drawing attention right to the part that makes me uncomfortable. Also I know a lot of you guys know where I’m coming from too. Hairy arms unite!
Friday, April 11, 2014
Do something every day that is loving toward your body and gives you the opportunity to enjoy the sensations of your body.
Golda Poretsky, Stop Dieting Now: 25 Reasons to Stop, 25 Ways to Heal (via umaysayimadreamer)
Thursday, April 10, 2014
making fun of body hair is mean and rude and cruel and you shouldn’t do it. people don’t voluntarily choose to have body hair, and if they choose to keep it its their fucking decision and it shouldn’t be ridiculed just because this culture’s weirdly obsessed with hairlessness there’s nothing wrong with hair it’s just hair stop making people feel bad for having it that’s awful
Wednesday, April 9, 2014
Why it’s my stomach again! I’m feeling especially awesome today, I got a full body massage! One of my friends has been bugging at me to go with this spa with her for sooo long and tbh yes one of the reasons I kept putting it off is because I was so concerned about my body hair. Long story short I’m so glad I went and didn’t let my insecurity stop me from having a good time! I actually saw a few other women there with hairy arms/stomachs/backs which was pretty reassuring. Lesson of the day, try not to let your hirsutism control your life to the point were you miss out on awesome experiences. Also body glitter looks glorious on hairy stomachs, seriously try it one time and thank me later.
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
» Small steps towards more self-love «
Last Friday I wrote about the importance of loving yourself. Now it’s time to follow up with the how. But I have put together a list of small things you can do, that will get you on the right path. This can be difficult, especially at first, but if it make you happier isn’t it worth the try?
Just a little thing more about the last ask, I also don’t have an hormonal imbalance or PCOS. I also saw on tumblr other girls saying the same thing. I don’t think it’s that uncommon.